Love Isn’t War

I’ve been spending quite a bit of time ruminating over the recent attack that left Christy Mack nearly dead.  To see a young woman, so completely beaten by a man makes me angry, resentful, and ashamed to be a part of the male demographic. Much more, Christy has received so much hate through social media from people saying she deserved this attack, because she was a porn star. It sickens me. No woman EVER “deserves” to be hit by a man.

I wrote a short piece last night, as I always do, when something is rolling over and over in my mind.

You promised her your love, and she gave to you her heart, When did that warrant you tearing her apart? The covenant of love, plagued by your violent slides, The beast that lies inside you, hid beneath your empty eyes; It brings upon a thrill, to posses the throws to kill; Broken, bleeding dying there, you sought more blood to spill. She found the will to live, she found the strength to run, Now she will rise again, like the burning sun

Beneath those empty eyes, a killer lies inside, now he tries in vain to win; a war machine wreathing sin.

Here is the story of what happened to Christy…

“I have no recollection of how many times I was hit, I just know my injuries that resulted from my beating,” Mack said. “My injuries include 18 broken bones around my eyes, my nose is broken in 2 places, I am missing teeth and several more are broken.”

Mack said she can’t chew or see out of her left eye. “My speech is slurred from my swelling and lack of teeth. I have a fractured rib and severely ruptured liver from a kick to my side,” Mack said.

Her leg was so badly injured that she can’t walk and she has “several lesions” from a knife Koppenhaver retrieved from her kitchen, she said.

Mack also said her ex “sawed much of my hair off with this dull knife.”

Mack continued, “He has beaten me many times before, but never this badly. He took my phone and canceled all of my plans for the following week to make sure no one would worry about my whereabouts. He told me he was going to rape me, but was disappointed in himself when he could not get hard.”

Mack then explained how she escaped:

After another hit or two, he left me on the floor bleeding and shaking, holding my side from the pain of a broken rib. He left the room and went to the kitchen where I could hear him ruffling through my drawers. Assuming he was finding a sharper, more stable knife to end my life, I ran out my back door, shutting it behind me so the dogs didn’t run inside to tip him off. I hopped the fence to the golf course behind my house and ran to a neighboring house. Naked and afraid he would catch me, I kept running through the neighborhood knocking on doors. Finally, one answered and I was brought to the hospital and treated for my injuries.




6 thoughts on “Love Isn’t War”

  1. I just don’t understand people. How does violence solve anything. It doesn’t and it certainly doesn’t make you any sort of a man when you beat on a woman. And for those people to say she deserved it? I’m sorry when does anyone’s profession warrant being beaten? I agree with everything you have written Nick and it’s sickening to think this guy is out there!! Wish her all the best with her recovery!!

    1. Thanks for the message, Q. This story is important for EVERYONE to hear and remember. We need to spread awareness that domestic violence is not ok.

  2. It really is a Sad Day especially this day and age that this cruelty still continues! That We as men of the world could still stupe so low and beat up on one another! Especially Women! Someone’s Mother, Daughter, Sister and Child! This BS should be put to end, and make the perpertrator pay for his deed once and for all! Christy Mack was fortunate enough to Live and Tell Her Story! How many don’t! My Prayers, Love and Support goes out to her! And to you Nick, Heartfelt thanks for Spreading Christy Mack story, so that the word can go around! So that we may put an End to this senseless abuse!
    Your Friend Always

  3. Silence often gives control to domestic violence – a silence that can be deafening in its intimidation. By its nature it forces people to exist in a world of secrets and lies, hurting the body and spirit in equal measure.

    Your words Nick are noble and decent. As is your willingness to take a stand and redress the balance. To prove that honour is not a lost commodity is a great thing. To make people aware of this situation even greater.

    The journey that this brave young lady faces will not be easy. [For that is exactly what Christy is, a brave young lady – regardless of the insensitive labels and senseless comments
    some people may throw about without thought, care or compassion.]

    Be strong Christy. Take back your life. Regain your control by remaining true to who you are. The greatest gift that you have at this moment is your freedom. May this freedom be kind to you and restore your faith in humanity.

    1. Thank you, Kerry. We need more people like you to speak out like this. And so you know, Christy was given the link to this blog, and can see the support she has here, as well. xo

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